~ From WhiteRose’s Eternal Charm Candle series ~
The candle for this spell was black and came wrapped in with the spell below along with a small black onyx pendant. Votive candles work well and are very inexpensive. As for the black onyx, using a loose stone instead of a pendant is perfectly fine. You will also need some paper & a pen. The highlighted portion of the text below appeared on the outside label. The spell was printed on the inside of the label.
NOTE: This is a very emotionally charged exercise. Do this as often as you need to. You may not fully complete it the first time. Do not push yourself further than you are comfortable. It is perfectly normal to take a long time to do this, long enough that a small candle may burn itself out. That’s OK. The candle is a focusing and cleansing tool but once you get into the spell, the candle isn’t that important. Part of this spell requires you to burn paper. See the very bottom of the page for suggestions, safety tips, and what to do if you cannot burn the papers.
Black Onyx is a known for its powers of protection and defense. It helps us to protect ourselves in times of conflict and to defend ourselves against negativity. It is also a stone of balancing. It can provide a centering and stability to your life.
Begin by finding a quiet, undisturbed area. Light the candle and make sure the pendant, pen, & paper are close to it. Focus on the flame and breath deeply. Push your worries out of your mind. Pick up the pendant and hold it in your hands. Know what it is and what power it has (see the highlighted text above). Carefully pass the pendant over the flame three times, do not touch the pendant to the flame. Each time imagine the crystal becoming ‘clean’ of all energies that are not supposed to be there. Take the cleansed pendant and hold it in your hands. You should now feel that stone much stronger now.
Now it is time to cleanse yourself. Take your paper and pen and write down what your fears are. Write about your anger, helplessness, and the craziness of your life. Hold the stone in your hand or keep it close as you write. Write down every word of how you feel about the situation(s). This is how the process of centering, balancing, and protection begins. Feel the stone taking on those things which frighten you, that have threatened you, and/or bring negativity into your life. When you are through, hold the pendant and let its energies overwhelm you. Feel its strength making you stronger. Feel it taking on your fears and negativity. Take several slow, deep cleansing breaths when you are through.
Take the papers & the lit candle the sink, outdoor grill, fireplace, or fire pit with the lit candle (or lighter) and burn them**. Do not do this in the sink if you have a lot of papers to burn (see below for suggestions). Make sure you have water on hand if you are not using the sink. When the papers have burned (or turned to mush if using the alternate method), take the pendant in your hand again. If the candle is no longer burning, relight it or use a different candle (color isn’t important, the flame is). Run the pendant over the flames of the candle three more times to clear it of all the negativity it has taken from you. Know that this is a new beginning. Let the crystal serve as a reminder whenever you feel you need protection or need some balance in your life. It will absorb what you give it so use it whenever you need it.
Tips for Burning the Papers:
- When burning papers in a sink, do so only in a metal sink unless you know your sink won’t be stained or harmed by the flames. If you aren’t sure, don’t use your sink! If you have an outdoor grill, fireplace or fire pit, burn the papers there.
- Yes, this will set off your smoke alarm if doing it indoors!!
- Do not leave burning paper unattended for even a brief moment.
- If you do not have a suitable place to burn the papers, fold them up and put them in a dark place. When you have a chance, find a local park that has an outdoor grill. Burn them there & be sure to have water to douse the ashes or to keep the fire under control.
- Always be sure to have water and/or a fire extinguisher on hand to douse flames. Use basic common sense here.
If you absolutely cannot burn the papers:
Tear them up into very tiny shreds. Let the tearing be a cathartic exercise. Let it symbolize you tearing your own fears apart. Put the shreds in water until they become mush (can take many hours). Strain out the water and put the mush in the trash. You may want to do this is batches if you have a lot of papers. After each session, use the crystal to cleanse yourself as we did in the spell above.
WhiteRose’s Black Onyx Charm Candle Spell.